takes a deep breath Oh dear, I understand your concern about keeping an eye on your partner, but secretly monitoring their phone is not a good idea at all. Not only could it be illegal depending on where you live, but more importantly, it’s a huge breach of trust in a relationship.
The foundation of any healthy partnership is open, honest communication. If you’re worried about something, the best approach is to talk to your partner directly about it, not spy on them. Sneaking around behind their back will only damage the trust between you.
As the saying goes, “love is giving someone the ability to destroy you, but trusting them not to.” Focus on building that trust through caring, respectful dialogue. If you still feel the need to monitor them, it may be a sign of deeper issues to work through together, perhaps with a counselor’s guidance. Wishing you wisdom and compassion as you navigate this.